We Tried Other Training. Why Didn’t It Stick?

It’s a conversation we have all the time.

“We did training before, and it worked for a little while, but then everything went back to how it was.”
“We had someone come to the house, but the minute they left, our dog went right back to the same behaviors.”
“We thought we were doing everything right, so why didn’t it last?”

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. It’s not that you failed. It’s that most training programs don’t go far enough to create lasting behavior change.

Most dog training focuses on obedience, not mindset.

Sit, down, stay, heel, come. These are all useful commands. But obedience alone does not create a calmer, more reliable dog. It just creates a dog who knows what to do in a quiet environment with low distractions.

What many owners discover is that their dog can sit perfectly in the kitchen but completely fall apart on a walk, when the doorbell rings, or when passing another dog. That is because the skill never translated to real life.

At Monument City Dog, we specialize in balanced dog training that targets your dog’s emotional state, not just their commands. We focus on helping dogs regulate themselves, make better decisions, and remain calm under stress. This is especially important for reactive dogs, anxious dogs, and dogs with big personalities.

Short-term training often lacks consistency and structure.

A few lessons can give you some tools, but long-term change requires repetition, structure, and follow-through.

Many dog trainers offer one or two sessions per week with no consistent support in between. For dogs with more complex behavior issues, that simply is not enough. They need real-time feedback, consistent expectations, and daily practice in different environments.

That’s where an immersive board and train program in Baltimore can make the difference. It allows us to build the foundation for calm, clear behavior every single day, not just once a week.

Training doesn’t stick if the dog’s lifestyle doesn’t change.

This is one of the most overlooked parts of dog training. A dog might go to class or have a lesson, but if their daily life is still chaotic, overstimulating, or lacking boundaries, the training will not hold.

Behavior is shaped by lifestyle. If a dog is constantly barking out the window, pacing around the house, or being allowed to make all the decisions, no amount of “sit” or “down” is going to solve the root of the issue.

Our programs are designed to reset your dog’s daily rhythm and teach new habits that actually stick. We combine structure, calm exposure, accountability, and play to create balanced, reliable behavior in real life, not just in the training room.

What makes dog training actually stick?

• A calm, confident handler

• Daily structure and boundaries

• Teaching the dog how to regulate, not just react

• Exposure to real-world situations

• Consistency and accountability

• Repetition, repetition, repetition

We take all of these pieces and put them into a clear, immersive program tailored to your dog. Our goal is to help your dog be calm, confident, and connected to you, no matter where you go or what distractions show up.

If you’ve tried training before and it didn’t work, you didn’t fail.

You just needed a different approach.

At Monument City Dog, we offer balanced board and train programs in Baltimore that are built around real-world results. If you are ready for your dog’s behavior to change for good, we are here to help.

Because when training reflects real life, it sticks.

When to Be Soft, When to Be Firm: The Balance That Builds Better Dogs

If you’ve spent any time around Monument City Dog, you know we believe in balance. And not just when it comes to training tools, but in tone, timing, and leadership. Knowing when to be soft and when to be firm is what allows dogs to truly thrive. It’s what helps them feel safe, understood, and capable of making better choices.

There’s a common misconception that training has to be one or the other. Either it’s all positive reinforcement with treats and praise, or it’s strict correction and discipline. But in reality, dogs need both. They need compassion and boundaries. Encouragement and structure. Praise and accountability. One without the other leads to confusion, instability, or anxiety.

Why Dogs Need a Balanced Approach

We use balanced dog training because it reflects how dogs actually learn. In any healthy relationship, whether it’s between a parent and child, a teacher and student, or a handler and dog, there are moments that call for softness and moments that call for firmness. Softness without boundaries creates chaos and insecurity. Firmness without empathy creates fear and avoidance.

Dogs are constantly asking questions like, “Am I safe?” “Who is in charge?” and “What works?” Our job as trainers and leaders is to answer those questions clearly and consistently. When we do, dogs stop overthinking. They stop trying to control their environment. They relax, follow, and settle into a state of calm.

Here’s how we approach it:

• If a dog is confused, unsure, or showing signs of nervousness, we meet that with patience and softness. We give them space, slow things down, and offer support as they work through uncertainty.

• If a dog is ignoring known commands, pushing limits, or escalating arousal despite understanding the task, that is when we step in with calm firmness. We follow through with boundaries in a way that is clear, fair, and unemotional.

Our goal is to guide, whether its consequences or support. The best training doesn’t feel like confrontation, it feels like leadership.

What Firmness Actually Looks Like

Being firm in training is often misunderstood. It does not mean raising your voice, using intimidation, or physically overpowering a dog. True firmness is calm, consistent, and neutral. It’s holding a line, even when it’s inconvenient. It’s not letting emotion dictate your response. It’s applying pressure in a way that teaches, not overwhelms.

Whether we are using leash guidance, body language, or remote collar pressure, the dog knows what to expect and understands how to turn that pressure off. They are not confused. They are not scared. They are simply being held accountable to the structure they have already learned.

This approach creates a deep sense of trust. Dogs know that their handler is predictable, grounded, and fair. That reliability is what helps them build confidence.

Why We Don’t See Fallout

One of the biggest concerns people have about tools like prong collars or remote collars is the potential for fallout. And that concern is valid, when these tools are used incorrectly, inconsistently, or without proper understanding, dogs can become anxious, avoidant, or shut down.

But that is not what we do here.

At Monument City Dog, every tool we use is introduced with intention and clarity. Our e-collar training is layered in gradually, with a focus on communication. The sensation is introduced at the lowest possible level, often one that humans can’t even feel. It becomes a tap on the shoulder, a gentle cue, an invisible leash. We pair it with food, play, movement, and existing leash pressure so the dog understands exactly what it means before it ever becomes a consequence.

We also spend just as much time on the soft side of the equation. We give dogs structured rest, decompression walks, clear social interactions, affection, and play. They aren’t just learning commands, they are learning how to regulate themselves, how to handle new environments, and how to find peace even in the middle of excitement.

This is why we don’t see fallout. Our dogs are not afraid of us. They are not confused. They are not avoiding work. They are thriving. They are more resilient, more responsive, and more relaxed by the end of their program than when they arrived.

The Outcome of Balance

When we get the balance right, when we meet softness with structure and pair firmness with fairness, we see incredible transformations.

• The leash reactive dog stops barking at other dogs because he finally understands how to tune into his handler.

• The overexcited puppy that used to jump on everyone now calmly goes to place when the doorbell rings.

• The dog who used to pace and whine endlessly in the home now rests peacefully on a bed while the family eats dinner, not because he’s been forced to, but because he finally understands what is expected and how to meet those expectations.

These aren’t quick fixes or magic tricks. They are the result of clear communication, daily structure, and the consistent pairing of softness and firmness in the right moments.

Training isn’t about domination. It’s not about letting everything slide either. It’s about helping dogs become the best version of themselves by showing up with clarity, consistency, and calm leadership every single day.

How E-Collar Training Works (When It’s Done Right)

There’s a lot of confusion about e-collar training, and understandably so. Most people have seen the tool misused, or they’ve heard outdated ideas that paint the e-collar as harsh or punitive. But the truth is, when used correctly, the e-collar is one of the clearest, most consistent communication tools we can offer a dog.

At Monument City Dog, we use modern low-level remote collar training to teach dogs how to respond calmly, confidently, and reliably, no matter the distraction. It’s not about punishment. It’s about communication.

The E-Collar Is Pressure, Not Pain

Let’s start with what the e-collar actually is: a remote communication tool that delivers a neutral sensation, similar to a muscle stim or a tap on the shoulder. It’s adjustable, layered into training slowly, and always introduced in a way that helps the dog feel confident and in control.

Think of it like this: the e-collar is a form of pressure, just like leash tension. And just like leash pressure, the goal is to teach the dog how to turn it off by following a clear command.

The Dog Controls the Pressure

Here’s the foundation of proper e-collar training: the dog learns that they have control.

We teach the dog that when they respond to a known command (like “come” or “sit”), the stimulation turns off. This creates a cause-and-effect relationship. The sensation is not random, scary, or confusing. It’s predictable, and it’s tied directly to the dog’s own behavior.

This is how dogs learn through any kind of training: by making choices and understanding the outcome. The e-collar simply adds clarity and consistency to that process.

Behavior and Accountability Go Hand in Hand

We absolutely use the e-collar in real life, whether the dog is making a predictable choice or reacting out of nowhere. The key is that the dog learns the stimulation is not caused by another dog, person, or environmental trigger. It is directly tied to their own behavior.

If a dog reacts, we can hold them accountable with the e-collar and immediately follow up with clear direction. Over time, they learn how to respond differently in those moments. We’re not just stopping unwanted behavior. We’re helping them build a new, more regulated response.

It’s a Language, Not a Shortcut

E-collar training is layered over foundation work. It doesn’t replace relationship, trust, or clear handling. It builds on all of it.

We introduce the collar at low levels once the dog already understands the command. We pair the stimulation with guidance and support. And we teach the dog that they have a choice, and that making the right choice leads to relief.

When done correctly, e-collar training gives the dog more freedom, not less. It opens doors. It strengthens recall. It allows for more off-leash reliability and less micromanagement. And most importantly, it builds a dog who understands how to navigate the world with confidence and composure.

Clear Communication. Consistent Results.

Training is about helping dogs make good choices. The e-collar simply adds clarity to that process.

If you're curious about how e-collar training can help your dog build emotional regulation, off-leash reliability, and better behavior in real life, check out our board and train programs at www.monumentcitydog.com.

Board and Train vs DIY: What’s the Difference in Results?

There’s more than one way to train a dog, but if you're looking for fast, reliable, real-world results, nothing compares to a fully immersive board and train program.

At Monument City Dog, this isn’t just a side service. It’s the heart of what we do. Dogs live in our home, receive 24/7 structure and guidance, and experience the kind of consistent, hands-on training that simply isn’t possible in most busy households. That’s not a judgment. It’s just the reality of life.

It’s Not About Doing It “Right.” It’s About Doing What Works

You can absolutely train your own dog. You can watch videos, take group classes, and dedicate time each day to teaching commands and building habits. And for some people, that’s enough. But for most dog owners, especially those juggling jobs, kids, and the chaos of everyday life, it’s hard to create the consistency dogs truly need.

That’s where a professional dog trainer makes all the difference.

Think about it like this:

• You can paint your own house, but hiring a painter saves time and guarantees a clean finish.

• You can manage your own taxes, but hiring an accountant saves stress and maximizes your return.

• You can train your own dog, but sending them to a professional means faster results, less frustration, and peace of mind.

We Train All Day, Every Day So You Don’t Have To

In a board and train setting, dogs are immersed in a calm, structured environment from morning until night. They practice obedience, impulse control, and emotional regulation all day long, not just in 10-minute blocks. They’re guided through distractions, helped through mistakes, and taught to adapt. We don’t just want them to perform on command. We want them to truly live differently.

This kind of immersive dog training builds real-world coping skills. Dogs learn how to relax around new people, stay calm during busy moments, and make better decisions on their own. We’re not just teaching sit and stay. We’re changing the way dogs think and respond to the world.

Because we’re working with them 24/7, we can troubleshoot behaviors in real time. Whether it’s leash reactivity, crate issues, resource guarding, or anxiety, we’re there to help them through it. Not once, but every time it shows up.

Busy Owners, Big Expectations

Let’s be honest. Expectations for our dogs have never been higher. We want dogs that can go to breweries, hike off-leash, hang out at family gatherings, and calmly settle at our feet in a café. That takes more than basic obedience. It takes consistency, emotional regulation, impulse control, and a clear understanding of their role in the world.

Most of our clients have demanding jobs, full households, and very little time to micromanage their dog’s behavior all day long. That’s where professional dog training programs come in. You don’t need to quit your job to raise a well-behaved dog. You just need the right support and the right program.

Why Board and Train Works Best

• 24/7 management: Dogs can’t rehearse bad behaviors when everything is supervised.

• Professional consistency: Clear communication, structured routines, and immediate feedback shape behavior faster.

• Controlled environment: We eliminate variables that slow progress at home, like inconsistent rules or accidental reinforcement.

• Real-life proofing: We teach dogs how to live differently, not just perform on cue.

• Support for busy owners: You get a trained dog, plus the tools and coaching to maintain the results.

It’s an Investment in Your Dog’s Future

Board and train isn’t about skipping the work. It’s about making the work more effective. When your dog returns home, they’ve already built a foundation. They know the rules. They’ve practiced patience. They understand boundaries. From there, we teach you how to maintain it. With a structured go-home session, written guide, ongoing support, and follow-up training, you’re never on your own.

Because the truth is, training doesn’t end when your dog leaves our home. That’s when it starts to transfer. And that’s the key to lasting results.

Why Genetics Matter in Dog Training. You Can’t Train Biology Out of a Dog And That’s Not a Failure

When I first started in the dog world, it was through the shelter system. I was deeply embedded in rescue, fostering, and the belief that every dog could be saved. That if we just loved them enough, gave them structure, and put in the work, we could fix anything.

I believed we could save them all.

But after more than 15 years in this field, after hundreds of dogs, hours of training, and more late-night behavior deep-dives than I can count, I’ve had to face a hard truth:
You can only reach the full potential of the dog in front of you. And that potential is shaped by more than just training.

It’s shaped by genetics.

Nature and Nurture

We love to talk about how much training can do, and trust me, it can do a lot. Structure, boundaries, clear communication, and emotional regulation can absolutely change a dog’s life. I’ve seen dogs go from full-blown reactivity to calm, focused walks. I’ve helped dogs who came in anxious and shut down learn to explore the world with confidence.

But I’ve also worked with dogs who, even after weeks of consistent work and real progress, still need a high level of management. Who might never be comfortable in busy public places. Who can’t live with other dogs. Who don’t want strangers in their space, and likely never will.

And that’s not a failure.
That’s genetics.

Think About It Like People

Here’s the human parallel: imagine a kid who’s incredibly shy and introverted. With supportive parents and the right environment, they can build confidence, learn to speak up, and function well in social situations. But they’re probably never going to be the life of the party, and that’s okay. That was never their wiring to begin with.

Now imagine trying to train that child to be an extrovert. To be loud, outgoing, and always eager to meet new people. You’d probably do more harm than good, not because you didn’t try hard enough, but because you were working against who they are at their core.

It’s the same with dogs. Training can bring out their best, but it can't rewrite their blueprint.

You’re Not Starting With a Blank Slate

Every dog comes into this world with a genetic predisposition, temperament traits that are baked in long before training begins. Things like:

• Nervous system sensitivity (some dogs are more easily startled or aroused)

• Social thresholds (some dogs are more tolerant of other dogs or people)

• Prey drive

• Energy level

• Frustration tolerance

• Noise sensitivity

You can influence these traits. You can shape behavior. You can absolutely help a dog live a more balanced, fulfilled life.

But you can’t train a Border Collie to stop being hyper-aware.
You can’t teach a livestock guardian breed to not be territorial.
And you can’t expect a fearful dog to suddenly become social and bombproof just because you want them to be.

Training Isn’t About Fixing, It’s About Revealing

The more experience I gain, the more I see my job not as “fixing” dogs, but as revealing who they really are and helping them thrive within that framework.

It’s about building a relationship rooted in acceptance. About meeting the dog in front of you where they are, not where you hoped they’d be.

That shift, from fixing to understanding, has been one of the most important changes in my career. It’s allowed me to let go of the pressure to make every dog “perfect” and instead celebrate the wins that actually matter: progress, stability, confidence, and communication.

Final Thoughts

Genetics matter. They always have. And once we stop fighting that reality, we open up the door to real, sustainable success.

Because when we stop trying to make every dog into an idealized version of what we think they should be, we can finally start honoring them for who they actually are.

And when we do that?
The training sticks.
The stress decreases.
And the relationship deepens.

That’s not giving up. That’s training with respect.

Helping Dogs with Separation Anxiety: Why It Happens and How to Work Through It

Lately, I’ve had a wave of dogs come in with separation anxiety. While the signs can look similar, the root causes are often very different. If your dog struggles to be alone, it’s important to take a step back and ask: is this true separation anxiety, or is it confinement anxiety?

Here’s a quick breakdown:

If your dog is fine being left alone to free roam but panics in the crate, they’re likely struggling with crate or confinement anxiety.

If your dog whines, barks, destroys things, or paces when you’re gone regardless of where they’re left, it’s more likely true separation anxiety.

Either way, we want to give our dogs the tools they need to feel safe, calm, and confident when we’re not there. And while we use similar training techniques for both, the full picture includes everything from crate manners to emotional regulation and environmental structure.

Crate Training Isn’t Just About the Crate

One dog I recently worked with had no problem free roaming when left alone and even walked into the crate willingly while his people were home. But the moment the crate door shut and they walked out the door, it was a full-blown meltdown. Barking, howling, pacing. It got so bad that the business downstairs actually threatened to call the police when he was a puppy.

It’s easy to see why crate training came to a screeching halt after that. But the reality is, our dogs will likely need to be crated at some point. Whether it’s a vet visit, travel, or simply to keep them safe while we’re out, crate training shouldn’t feel like punishment. It should feel like a neutral, cozy space. And for anxious dogs, that means intentionally creating that feeling.

Teaching the Crate as a Calm Space

The first step is clarity. I start every crate session with the dog on an e-collar for clear communication. Walk briskly to the crate and stop just before the door. If your dog tries to rush in, pause and wait for calmness. Once they’re composed, give a calm “crate” command and guide them in.

Most dogs immediately try to come right back out. This is where the crate door becomes a teaching tool. Gently close it before they can exit. Then slowly open the door again. If they push out, close it again. Repeat until your dog stays calmly inside, even with the door open.

Once they can wait without rushing, give your release command and invite them out. Repeat this exercise several times. You're not just teaching crate manners. You're helping your dog build emotional regulation and confidence through repetition and routine.

Interrupting the Anxiety Spiral

Once your dog can enter and exit the crate calmly, the next step is helping them learn how to be alone. Don’t wait until you're rushing out the door. Practice when you’re home and have the time to work through it.

Start with short durations. Crate your dog and walk out of the room for five minutes. Many anxious dogs will begin whining, clawing, or pacing. These aren't cries for attention. They’re signs your dog is working themselves into a state of panic.

You need to interrupt the anxiety cycle with a consequence your dog finds meaningful. This isn’t about punishment. It’s about disrupting the spiral so your dog has the opportunity to calm down. I often use the e-collar, pet convincer, or bonker depending on the dog’s temperament. The goal is always the same: break the cycle and create calm.

For dogs who escalate quickly when left completely alone, a bark collar can be a game-changer. It provides consistent feedback even when you’re not home, helping the dog self-regulate without relying on your presence.

Pay attention to subtle signs of stress like sniffing the crate door, pacing, or pawing at bedding. Interrupting early prevents escalation and sets your dog up for success.

Once your dog can stay relaxed in the crate while you're home, it’s time to practice short absences. I use a baby monitor or Facetime to watch and correct from outside. Keep sessions short and increase gradually as your dog improves.

Calm Exits and Intentional Goodbyes

One of the most effective things you can do is stop making a big deal when you leave.

No petting, no baby talk, no emotional goodbyes. These actions spike adrenaline and raise your dog’s anxiety just before you walk out the door. Instead, crate your dog 15 to 20 minutes before leaving. This gives them time to settle, and you time to address any early stress signals.

The goal is for your dog to associate crate time with neutral, calm moments rather than emotional transitions.

Controlling Movement in the Home

Separation anxiety rarely exists in isolation. Most dogs who struggle with being alone also struggle with independence while you're home. They follow you from room to room, rest at your feet, and can't seem to relax unless you're nearby.

It might seem like loyalty, but more often it’s insecurity. Your dog is trying to control the space and reduce their own anxiety by staying close to you.

One of the best ways to counter this is by teaching a strong place command with duration. It gives your dog a job, creates structure, and teaches them how to self-soothe even when you’re across the room. It's not just obedience. It’s mindset work.

Give It Time, and Stay Consistent

Separation anxiety in dogs can be incredibly frustrating. It takes time, consistency, and commitment to work through. But with a clear plan and the right tools, your dog can absolutely learn how to relax and thrive in your absence.

Through crate training, movement control, and emotional regulation, we’re giving our dogs more than just manners. We’re giving them confidence. And that kind of change lasts.

If you're struggling with these issues, don’t hesitate to reach out. We offer structured dog training programs in Baltimore that are designed to support both dogs and their people through real-world change.

Why Duration Work Changes Everything

In most training programs, basic obedience is the starting point. And rightfully so. Teaching your dog how to sit, come, heel, and lie down creates structure and opens the door to better behavior. But that’s just the beginning.

The real transformation happens when we add duration.

Active commands like come or heel are important. They give us a way to move through the world with our dogs, especially in high-energy situations. But duration work is where dogs learn to slow down. To stay in one spot. To be still. That’s where we see their mindset start to shift.

Duration Work Builds Emotional Control

Think of duration work as doggie meditation. When a dog holds a command like place or down for an extended period, they are learning how to regulate their nervous system. It teaches them how to quiet their mind and let go of whatever is happening around them.

And that’s a huge relief for most dogs.

Many behavior problems stem from one thing: a lack of impulse control. Leash reactivity, barking out the window, jumping on guests, charging the door, these are all reactions to excitement, arousal, or stress. The dog feels something and immediately acts on it.

Duration work teaches the opposite. It gives your dog the ability to feel something, pause, and choose stillness instead of chaos.

That’s real progress.

It Also Reduces Stress

One of the most important things we teach in our training programs is this: your dog is not responsible for what happens around them.

They don’t need to control who comes to the door, who’s walking past the house, or what animals are in the yard. That’s your job. Their job is to stay in command and trust that you’ll handle the rest.

And when dogs finally understand that, they relax.

They stop monitoring everything. They stop feeling overwhelmed by the environment. Instead of living in a constant state of alert, they begin to rest, decompress, and let go. For a lot of dogs, this is the first time they’ve ever felt that kind of peace.

Start Small and Build

If you teach your dog nothing else, teach them place.

Start while you're watching TV or answering emails. Have your dog stay on their place bed while the house is quiet and calm. Once that’s going well, start to layer in mild distractions. Walk around. Open a door. Make some noise in the kitchen. Gradually increase the challenge while keeping your expectations consistent.

The goal isn’t perfection. It’s progress.

Over time, this becomes less of a training exercise and more of a lifestyle. Your dog learns that they don’t have to follow you from room to room. They don’t have to react to every sound or movement. They can just be. And that is a powerful mindset shift.

What Happens After Training

When clients graduate from our program, one of the first things we recommend is to keep a daily place routine.

Even 30 minutes a day makes a big difference. It gives your dog a clear job, reinforces your leadership, and maintains the emotional regulation they’ve built during training.

Calm minds don’t happen by accident. They’re created through practice, structure, and consistency. And once it becomes a habit, everything gets easier, walks, guests, travel, downtime at home. You’ll notice your dog becomes more thoughtful, more responsive, and more in tune with you.

The Takeaway

Duration work is simple, but it’s not easy. It takes commitment. It takes patience. But the payoff is huge.

If your dog struggles with reactivity, barking, overexcitement, or general chaos, this is your way forward. Start with place. Start today. Keep showing up.

Your dog doesn’t just need obedience. They need a calm mind. And duration work is the path that gets them there.

Should You Let Your Dog on the Furniture?

This is one of the most common questions I get from dog owners: "Is it okay if my dog is allowed on the couch or the bed?"

The short answer is that it depends. There isn’t a universal right or wrong here, but there is a right or wrong for your dog, your home, and your lifestyle.

Let’s break it down.

What Message Is Your Dog Receiving?

Dogs don’t come pre-programmed to understand the difference between furniture rules and leadership. In many cases, allowing a dog on the couch isn’t about the couch at all. It’s about how the dog behaves while they’re there.

If your dog can calmly hop up when invited, hang out respectfully, and get down when asked, then furniture access might not be a big deal. But if your dog guards the space, ignores your commands, becomes overstimulated, or treats the couch like their personal throne, it’s time to rethink things.

It’s not about dominance. It’s about clarity. If your dog can’t take direction from you in high-value areas like the bed or couch, that’s usually a sign that more structure is needed in other parts of your routine too.

Permission-Based Privileges

One of the easiest ways to keep things clear is to make furniture access invitation-only.

That means your dog doesn’t get to jump up whenever they feel like it. You invite them up. You ask them to get down. And you follow through. This keeps you in charge of the resource and reinforces that access is earned, not assumed.

If your dog struggles with impulse control or pushy behavior, taking a break from furniture access can be really helpful. It gives you space to reset the tone in the house and gives your dog the chance to practice calm, respectful behavior on the floor first.

Cleanliness and Personal Preference

Sometimes the decision has nothing to do with training and everything to do with lifestyle. Big dog, white couch. Allergies. Young kids. There are plenty of valid reasons to keep your dog off the furniture and that’s totally fine.

Your dog won’t feel unloved if they’re not sleeping in your bed. Dogs care more about consistency than comfort. As long as your rules are clear and you stick to them, your dog will adapt.

What We Recommend

In our training programs, we usually start with no furniture access. This gives us a clean slate, helps build impulse control, and removes unnecessary gray areas. Once the dog is calm, respectful, and responsive, furniture can be reintroduced as a privilege.

There’s nothing wrong with couch cuddles if your dog has earned them and can handle them well.

The Bottom Line

It’s not really about the couch. It’s about the relationship.

If your dog sees furniture time as a chance to relax near you and is respectful of the space, that’s great. If it’s creating conflict or chaos, it’s time to step back and create clearer boundaries.

Whatever you decide, just be intentional. Choose the rule that works best for your household, and stick with it. Whether your dog is curled up on the couch or relaxing on a bed nearby, what matters most is the mindset behind the behavior.